How to help your child overcome fears


The main rule is that the fears and of the child should never be ignored! If something worries the child, it is worthwhile to sort it out as soon as possible and in more detail.

It is important for parents to remember that often the child is frightened not so much by the situation itself, but by the reaction of an adult to it. When he hears the alarm in his mother’s voice, her excitement is immediately conveyed to him.

Even if the child’s fears seem ridiculous and ridiculous to you, you should take his feelings seriously and, above all, recognize their reality: “Yes, the shaggy monster under the bed is very scary!”

Do not shame, blame, scold or punish the child for being cowardly. This will not improve the situation, and can only make it worse. The kid will move away from you and stop trusting you.

To better understand what he is afraid of, talk to your child about his fear. It’s good if you tell him that you were also afraid of something in childhood, but over time you managed to cope with fear. So the baby will feel that everything is fine with him, that you perfectly understand his feelings, and that fear, in principle, can be overcome.

Try to reassure your child that you can protect him from any monster and that he is safe around you and

Do not cultivate a “usual” fear in a child! So, if the baby is afraid to swim, you should not throw him into the water at a depth, just as you should not leave him alone in a dark room if he is afraid of the dark. You have no idea how sad the consequences of such methods of dealing with fears for the health and development of children can be.

Try to distract the child from his fear with some interesting game or story.

Or you can write a story about this fear with your child, at the end of which he happily gets rid of the hated frightening monster. Invite your child to draw fear or mold it from plasticine, and then do what he wants with it: tear it into small pieces, crumple it and throw it away, paint it with bright colors. Talk about how the child feels after he has “dealt with” his fear.

Parents cannot save a child from fear, they can only help him overcome this fear with their love and care. Only the child can overcome fear.