The title of this article can be a bit misinterpreted, so let us first clarify some issues.
On the one hand, if you worry too much about what other people will think about you, then you are limiting your life very much. This behavior can lead you to the point where your life literally stops being yours.
You cannot declare it to be yours, because the life you lead is simply based on your thoughts about the light in which you appear before people around you. Therefore, you take actions corresponding to this behavior, never looking inside yourself, looking only outside.
You always hesitate before voicing your opinion, you always go with the flow, even when you want to do something different. You are more worried about what others will say and think about you than what you will think about yourself.
There is another range of the spectrum.
If you completely stop worrying about what other people will think of you, then you are potentially at risk of becoming completely alienated from them. You think only about yourself, you do not bother to think about how your actions can affect other people.
And if you don’t care how your actions affect others, then you can do so – your actions can be hostile to other people, you will negatively affect them until you are all alone (imagine if you always said what you had in mind, without paying attention to what others might think about it).
This article focuses on how to get to the coveted middle, where you can get a “healthy” amount of personal freedom when you don’t let other people’s opinions about you dictate your behavior, but at the same time, you still think about how your actions will affect other people so that you don’t carelessly hurt them.
Many people’s lives are greatly affected by what others will say and think about their actions.
Choosing a job, choosing to spend money, even sometimes choosing a marriage partner. It’s all influenced by what can become an obligation…
it’s often the case. The problem is that many people didn’t think about what they wanted him to do.
And even if they thought about it, the biggest problem remains – they couldn’t explain to themselves why they should do it. That’s the key point, which often seems to fall out of consideration.
Their explanations are often based on how other people will look at them and perceive them, which is a very frail reason for answering the “why” question because
it’s completely “outside of you.”
Some, however, can explain the reasons for their behavior with their own internal considerations, but these arguments are very weak. They are so weak that they collapse under external pressure and anxiety about what other people will say about them.
The best way you can stop worrying about you…
people will think it is to find an explanation and an excuse for their own decisions, actions and their life path within themselves.
YOU must justify and confirm your actions, and when you do, you must VERY explain and justify them.
Your actions must be justified by yourselves, because we tend to take into account what other people will think of us when we make almost every decision in our lives. We are social creatures, and we feel the need to go in harmony with society, but more often than not we want to do what the majority wants. If you do follow your path, you run the risk of alienation. This is the classic contradiction between an individual and society.
If you take a step back and look at this issue, you will find that when it comes to the perception of other people’s opinions, all people go through 3 stages.
Stage 1: You worry too much about what other people will say about you. Problems with shyness, the desire to fit into a circle, the desire to be “cool” among total strangers – all this manifests itself at this stage. All this has a vengeance to be in school years, sometimes it lasts until the first years at the institute.
Why does it usually happen when you are young? All because your self-determination, your personal understanding of yourself has not yet taken hold, has not acquired a clear focus. So you just replace your uniqueness with images that have been tested and approved – they are popular in the crowd. You try to live up to that image.
Stage 2: Then begins the phase of “rebellion without reason”. You declare that you don’t care what others think about you. In fact, you still care about it. This phase takes place from the age of 16 to the beginning of your adult life.
Stage 3: If you have reached stage 3, it means that you have sincerely accepted yourself for who you are. Now, it doesn’t really matter to you what other people think of you in relation to the decisions you make, especially when it comes to your whole life journey.
I say, “it doesn’t really matter,” because their opinion is still a factor. The main difference, however, is that it’s a factor that now takes its rightful place.
What kind of “proper place” is that?
You do consider this element (what others will think of you), but in the end, after you have considered everything, you make your decision and it is justified and justified by you and only you. You do not become an absolute slave to what other people think of you, but you also do not deny their opinion completely.
Choose your own path, set your course, and FOLLOW it.
You must apply strong justifications and proofs of your own path.
List as many justifications and confirmations as you can for the chosen path, and give as many as you can.
Because the stronger you justify the life path you have chosen, the stronger your inner voice will be, and the weaker your outer voices will be.
You are the captain of your ship. Do not choose the direction of movement, justifying it only by one reason, by the fact that other people will think better of you if you choose this path.
If you are constantly worried about what others think about you, then you will constantly change the direction, based on what is the current direction of thinking of the majority.
Your final destination will change all the time.
Your ship’s engine will run for nothing until you run out of power.
fuel, and you won’t have enough resources left to get to where
you’d really like to.
To justify your decisions, actions and choices in life is VERY important!
This factor cannot be overestimated.
I think it would be wise to sit down today and try to be absolutely sincere with yourself in answering the question about the way you are going through life. Justify it for yourself. Have you ever done that?
You may find that you are behaving under the guidance of NOT the same reasons. If that’s the case, it’s fine – just find a new path with the Right reasons that you and only you can prove. After that, the opinion of others will no longer have such a strong influence on you.
On the other hand, you may find that your path is determined by the right reasons, then on your path you will be able to find even more proof of its fidelity, which will contribute to strengthening your determination to go through this path to the end.
It may seem that the tone of this article implies that if you do what everyone else is doing, then you are doing something wrong. That’s not true. If you have decided to do something, and it is your decision, justified by you, but it happens that everyone else (the crowd) is doing the same thing, then the path will be like this.
The main thing is that you have justified your choice based on your INTERNATIONAL beliefs. All
the rest is just a coincidence.
You must have a strong core, otherwise you will be pushed in different directions like a rag doll by those around you.
When you find your way and justify it, not just justify it, but really confirm its justice for you, you will go boldly on your way. Soon you’ll be
you’ll find that the whole question of worrying too much about what others think about you
people, stood in the right place for him.